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When we talk about ‘problem’, what first come across to your mind? If a problem has no solution, it may not be a problem, but a fact – not to be solved, but to be coped with over time. There is a time in the life of every problem when it is big enough to see, yet small enough to solve. I personally believe that problems function as spices, one of important ingredients in our lives, and life without risk is not worth living.

‘Best friend’, on the other hand, may sometimes best describe as, when it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

‘Ex-girlfriend’ may have a myriad definitions and it differs from one’s past experience to another.

Now, how can these three different things, odd in their nature, can logically be connected? Let us first deal with pleasant situations. I admit that it is nice when you have plenty of problems and suddenly, your best friend or your ex-girlfriend come to give their hands; or, you have a lot of problems with your ex-girlfriend and your best friend come to make things turns better; or, you give a little help to assist your best friends on how to maintain good relationship with their ex-girlfriend.

But how about when your best friend or someone you know damn well dates with your ex? How do you really feel? What if you found someone you connected with but they happened to be your friends ex? Is it acceptable to go forward with that relationship? I guess it all depends on the circumstance. But, it has happened to me, and by no mean can be restored. Sometimes men can be a little too kind and introduce friends to women that they have their eye on themselves without first find out who was the girl concerned? Perhaps the customary rhetoric of “I don’t know about her-ex and her past life” is repeated but does it mean an acceptable reply?

Now, in a precarious situation, I’m trapped: should I re-ask her out and risk losing a best friend ever, or should I just forget the whole idea? On the other part of myself, both of them are important and their presence in my second life beyond compare to any other things that I could have.

To men to who is alike, consider what will happen next. Perhaps you still remain friends but aren’t nearly as close as both of you used to be. Kindly speaking, that’s the price you must pay for getting involved with your best friend ex. Even you bet most times it doesn’t work out quite as well as it did for you.

The issue remains rebuttable as the girl is no longer mine. She is available to anyone who seeks. The sole question is, are you willing to? Willing enough?

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