Showing posts with label Social Dilemma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Social Dilemma. Show all posts

Men vs Cry? [Social Dilemma]

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To begin, is there any problem with men crying or showing affection? I personally hold that crying is a natural reaction and it helps personnel, by some means, to release some of the poisonous effects caused by stress and frustration. Myriad of studies have revealed that by discouraging little boys to express their true emotions contributes to much of the delinquency and self-centeredness and destructive kinds of competitiveness we see among men. Men who aren't afraid of a few tears and have been allowed to experience and express their feelings are more likely to become better nurturers and negotiators.

When it’s now justified for men to cry, for what reasons men should have been deemed to look natural when they cry are also an unresolved mysteries. It’s acceptable norm when men got touched by any emotional, dramatic scene from the movie they watched. Such moment is too subjective and ought not to be conveyed since what constitute a dramatic and emotional one, may differ from an individual to another. So, as long as it carries some significant values or sort of like to remain you some nostalgic events, it’s fine for you to express your emotional affection. It’s immaterial whether you got touched by Batu Belah Batu Betangkup (you know who), Ultraman (you know who) or Mohabatien Bollywood Movie (and you know who). Poor me, I recently watched 10,000 BC and I’m touched by Evolet.

In other circumstances, it is also an acceptable norm for men to cry over the lost of their beloved ‘things’. Lonely (it doesn’t mean single) men are normally forms close emotional bond with their laptop (me personally), rubic cube, new sony psp (you know who), ipod and other gadgets.

The demise of a loved one may also cause men to cry. It’s like a sharp paint deep inside your heart to lose someone you really love – pet, family member or anyone who dearest to your heart. The reasons for shedding a tear are justified and it is no longer remains a taboo if a man cries for the right reasons in public.

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Social Dilemma

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Do men cry? Does cry makes a man less manly? When it is okay for man to cry? Is that true, men, they are the rock in the middle of a strom thus crying make them less macho?

How do we decide?

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In many ways, the work of a critic is easy. We risk very little, yet enjoy a position over those who offer up their work to our judgments, but how do we decide? What are the bases of our judgments? If the learned judge in a trial based his judgment on cases, statute and other authorities, how do we, as a layman literally speaking, come upon into a judgment?

Does the judgment we gave according to ordinary norm and acceptable custom or does it due to our own belief, conscience or natural discretion? Later question in sequence need to be dealt with is that who make the custom, law and belief? Have you ever heard the phrase; ‘men-make-law’ constitutes that as long as it is men creation, it is seriously flawed as men are imperfect?

Rather to support, I as a law student, it’s our platform to belief that, law even less perfect may at least reduce hardship in our system of life. The sole answer is that no matter how difficult may the conflict is or how serious the crises are, we need to go back to the root of the genesis; where the divine rule came into force.

Now back to our main course, which hug should you consider of normal and acceptable?



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Ex-girlfriend and Best Friend; which one you’re willing to forego?

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When we talk about ‘problem’, what first come across to your mind? If a problem has no solution, it may not be a problem, but a fact – not to be solved, but to be coped with over time. There is a time in the life of every problem when it is big enough to see, yet small enough to solve. I personally believe that problems function as spices, one of important ingredients in our lives, and life without risk is not worth living.

‘Best friend’, on the other hand, may sometimes best describe as, when it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

‘Ex-girlfriend’ may have a myriad definitions and it differs from one’s past experience to another.

Now, how can these three different things, odd in their nature, can logically be connected? Let us first deal with pleasant situations. I admit that it is nice when you have plenty of problems and suddenly, your best friend or your ex-girlfriend come to give their hands; or, you have a lot of problems with your ex-girlfriend and your best friend come to make things turns better; or, you give a little help to assist your best friends on how to maintain good relationship with their ex-girlfriend.

But how about when your best friend or someone you know damn well dates with your ex? How do you really feel? What if you found someone you connected with but they happened to be your friends ex? Is it acceptable to go forward with that relationship? I guess it all depends on the circumstance. But, it has happened to me, and by no mean can be restored. Sometimes men can be a little too kind and introduce friends to women that they have their eye on themselves without first find out who was the girl concerned? Perhaps the customary rhetoric of “I don’t know about her-ex and her past life” is repeated but does it mean an acceptable reply?

Now, in a precarious situation, I’m trapped: should I re-ask her out and risk losing a best friend ever, or should I just forget the whole idea? On the other part of myself, both of them are important and their presence in my second life beyond compare to any other things that I could have.

To men to who is alike, consider what will happen next. Perhaps you still remain friends but aren’t nearly as close as both of you used to be. Kindly speaking, that’s the price you must pay for getting involved with your best friend ex. Even you bet most times it doesn’t work out quite as well as it did for you.

The issue remains rebuttable as the girl is no longer mine. She is available to anyone who seeks. The sole question is, are you willing to? Willing enough?

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